no matter what, there's always a bong to think on.

if only love could be as amazingly orgasmic as the closing percussion rolls of the mission: impossible theme. sadly, a strong relationship comes down to a few things: chemistry, perserverence and retained interest. i think that most people who've been in relationships longer than 3 years have an incredible threshold for pain...or they're sadists. the prospect of seeing the same person everyday, sharing time together, it sounds sweet and fulfilling, but you also run the risk of being innately bored. a bubble forms, and then a comfort zone is established, and when something comes along to burst your bubble, you haven't got the foggiest as to what to do.

complacency is a relationship killer. you're bound to go bonkers if something unexpected comes up. ditto if you'd never prepared for it. anything can happen, really, and that pushes the boundaries as to how far you're willing to go for somebody. but it's also never a good thing if you're constantly looking out and worrying everyday...but by the time you do that, it would've already been too late. the lucky ones make it out alive and wiser, while the unlucky ones only gain wisdom a significant amount of time later.

how "easy" should you take it easy? i think that it ultimately depends on whoever you're with. things should never be taken too far until you've both reached a point where you can share toothbrushes. second sign of a good thing. that only happens if you're staying together. first sign of a good thing (uni/college roommates do not count at this point). it's only natural for us to plan for ourselves first. but it's quite sad when we realize that the person we want to be with the most doesn't quite fit into those plans. what then? do you throw away a good thing or do you keep at it and hope that it fits into your future?

let's look at it this way.

you're going to die. you're happy with whoever you're with. do the math.

why do we always throw away a good thing because of circumstances beyond our control? you're complacent, you're in that bubble, and you're in that frame of mind where you start saying things like "no matter what, i'm going to try my best to make this work out". you hit a speed bump and your momentum decreases til it comes to a slow, but very dead, stop. by this time, you've already decided that you've had enough and that you're going to do the right thing by giving it a mercy killing. you part amicably because you weren't bummed enough to see if something could've happened.

i'm saying this in the context that everything was alright prior to the unexpected situation. maybe your mother caught the both of you with your pants down, maybe one of you found religion and said it wasn't worth it, maybe your dog died and you couldn't get over it with their help...the list is long, and probably could be incredibly funny. these quirks and quotients should just add on to the experience...they shouldn't discourage you from taking things on. otherwise, you're never going to be stronger.

no, love will never be orgasmic as the rousing final percussion rolls on the mission: impossible theme. we've all heard/read that bible passage over how love is patient and kind and whatnot. i don't think it says that love is a load of fun (haven't touched the king james in a while). love is blindness, and we're always willing not to see (i'm trying to paraphrase U2 but it doesn't seem to be working).

but as the song says, love the one you're with and stay with them if you do. the world needs more people like you because there's this dark, dark vibe going around that's just sinister. we've got to push it away and bring on the sunny days. we don't have enough sunny days here in the Valley.

i want someone to love.

she wants someone to love.

we want someone to love.

what about you?

peace the fuck out.